Why Being an Introvert is much Better than Extrovert
A lot of people demand and seek videos to be an extrovert these days. The reason why that has happened is, we think that there is a certain popularity factor being an extrovert. Let’s consider this statement that a lot of people feel: “My shy nature is such a disadvantage!” Now, let me tell you something that you won’t believe. Take two of the best actors- Ranbir Kapoor and Leonardo DiCaprio. Both are shy and introvert in real life. But, the question is how can a person be shy and perform so well in front of millions of people? Because acting is a skill, skills are built from practice. Johnny Depp, Stephen Colbert both are introvert too. A lot of the greatest geniuses were shy and introverted. Before telling you that Why Being an Introvert is much Better than Extrovert, let me first break your myth you may have that being an extrovert is equal to coolness.
We think That Extroverts are cool
The reason we think extroverted personality is an answer is because of two problems: You want to be popular or impressive, and you want to be charming and pleasant. One is showing off your personality and other is using your personality to please others. In order to be impressive, find and build your thing. Even a confident impressive speaker requires a lot of practice.
The problem is we think to be an extrovert means being cool. Both are entirely different things. So let’s examine this: what is more advantageous – being an introvert or an extrovert? Take three simple basic observations. 1) Being an extrovert has nothing to do with intelligence. 2) Humans majorly want acceptance from people. 3) People who find it easy to express themselves, they generally express their emotions.
Combine these three and you get a person who is easily readable. These people are exposing their behavior patterns to everyone else to see and their weaknesses are exposed. Get this thing- the more you talk and display yourself, the more you tell others about yourself. You make yourself easy to figure out.
Introverts Speak less
See, even manipulation is done by planting fear, doubt, desire, by using keywords and tiny sentences. Humans tend to get confused by long paragraphs but can catch on tiny sentences with compact meaning hidden in it. That’s why the advertiser uses catchphrases and clever lines that stick in your mind.
Now, let’s talk about speaking less.
- One who speaks less gets to observe others more, hear others and even read them. He is getting to know and read a person faster than who are busy telling others who they are.
- Your personality is a mystery. Nobody knows what your skills are, capabilities are, everybody assumes that you are nobody based on your silence.
- People accept you because
- They are not challenged by you.
- Everybody wants to be heard.
Therefore, what we learned from this is, one personality engages in the display of their strengths and weaknesses and the other one is a mystery. In any condition, I would consider being a mystery a better option than exposing myself.
Your Content Matters
Being impressive has nothing to do with personality type. It has everything to with what skills you have, your product, your knowledge – basically content. To talk a lot or express yourself is not a skill, it is just their behavior, therefore it isn’t impressive when you talk a lot but don’t have impressive content.
For example, I am an introvert and I choose silence over announcing my existence in every room I enter. I look for data, information, and observe people’s behavior, so I remain quiet and observe. If you want to get ahead of people, then you need to know everything about them and them to know nothing about you. Be as non-threatening as you can be. Be as nice as you can be, people like quiet people because they think they are either weak or nice. Use that. It is such a great common misunderstanding.
Introverts Shine When it’s Their Time
So, when do you strike? At the moment of opportunity. Then you show who you are. Learn from animals as much as you can. Carnivores animals know how to brilliantly camouflage themselves and store their energy to attack the enemy later on. Make a display only when your time comes. Otherwise, listen and smile, listen and smile.
What are the two greatest wants that people subconsciously have? They want to be heard by others and be accepted by others. Two simple actions fulfill them both: listening and smiling.
But again, you have to build the content that impresses others. And that takes work, practice and dedication. If you are a lazy person and like to sit at home doing nothing. Then, it is not going to help you in any way. If you want to overcome this laziness, you can read my last post 3 Practical Steps How to Stop Being Lazy. Because, if you have nothing to show for and are shy, of course, it’s going to suck. And the ability to speak confidently wouldn’t change that either.
People are impressed by things they can’t do or haven’t done
When you watch a great dancer in front of you, you’ll not just focus on the dance, but also admire their ability to dance. You’re impressed by the things you haven’t done which requires a lot of hard work. It’s that simple. Whether they are introvert or extrovert doesn’t even cross your mind.
So, what do YOU have to show for?
If you want to be impressive and to be accepted, develop yourself and take yourself to the next level so that you become what others aren’t. As long as you are weaker than them you’ll go unnoticed. And by weaker, I mean CONTENT. So, start developing your personality and start working on your skills that others are going to get impressed by.
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